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November 21, 2010

Pre-Thanksgiving thoughts

Filed under: Uncategorized — yael [ya-el] wagner @ 12:54
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Read Marie Arana column – “the Cultural Blend”

Thanksgiving roast pork tenderloin

Explain: in the past few weeks, identity & heritage were high on my discuss/think list.  as some of you know and were asked to engage and share your view, feelings, I  was struggling with my “disposition, trying to understand how other feel, define their identity.  between Israel, India, my dad’s story and the discussions that followed, it seems that all agree that identity is a tough nut to crack.

as Thanksgiving approaches, I’m having 2nd thoughts about my Thanksgiving attitude.   is this my holiday too, or is it a great amazing meal that i share with friends? is this my first home or my 2nd?  how living here defines me?  what am i grateful for in the Thanksgiving context?

in past years, if i was around, i enjoyed sharing a great, rich dinner with friends.  didn’t think or relate to the holiday, to its spirit.  this year, somewhere, somehow, i found a road between saying “I’m sorry” to saying “thanks”.  not surprising that a column about the writer’s dual-identity holiday’s celebration got me  there.

yes, i was touched by this column.

Photo credits: Beatriz Da Costa, for Real Simple.



  1. Of course it is your holiday – in as much as you choose to share it. It is all about sharing with each other, welcoming newcomers, appreciating our good fortune for everything we have. Remember, the first was natives sharing with the newcomers of that time – a joint celebration of new beginnings and making room for others (and let’s avoid the political here please and just remember what it is about). So, as someone living here, not quite a newcomer but always in the process of new beginnings, your question is what my friend?

    Comment by Kk — November 21, 2010 @ 23:57 | Reply

    • since i moved here in 1999, thanksgiving didn’t feel like my holiday. it was a great meal to join, special evening to share with friends, but it didn’t feel like my holiday, i felt like a welcomed guest. somehow, in the midst of discussing-arguing identity, this year i feels differently. looking forward to celebrate it. thank you!
      i thought we gonna leave the kushiot [] alone until Passover. and i’ll have my answer by Thursday.

      Comment by yael wagner — November 22, 2010 @ 01:46 | Reply

  2. Oh and um – picture is roast pork? Huh?

    Comment by Kk — November 21, 2010 @ 23:58 | Reply

    • not a mistake. making a point. see next blog – #162.

      Comment by yael wagner — November 22, 2010 @ 01:36 | Reply

  3. העניין עם הרבה חגים, נוצריים ויהודיים, ואולי גם אצל המוסלמים, שהם מגדירים תופעות חברתיות וצרכים אישיים בסיסיים. לשבת מול שולחן מלא כל טוב ולרצות לברך על זה, לא חייב להיות רק מנהג המשלב כינוס כפות ידיים כמו אצל הנוצרים או ברכה בנוסח יהודי. גם “לא תענה ברעך עד שקר” זה לא דבר “דתי”. חוץ מתעניות ביהדות, יש גם לנו חג בו אנו מודים על מה שיש לנו?

    Comment by Ahuvik — November 23, 2010 @ 01:16 | Reply

    • which one? i think that in most cases, the joke about all Jewish holidays narrowed down to “they tried to kill us, we survived, let’s eat” is a “fair” summary.
      Thanksgiving? we thank at the end of each meal [if we are observe enough to do it], which holiday am i forgetting? true, each shabbat dinner is a little celebration, but… you can’t really enjoy it alone.

      Comment by yael wagner — November 23, 2010 @ 08:08 | Reply

  4. Be Thankful that you made it through another year, and that friends old and new are thinking of you. I’ll be with all my grandchildren. Happy Thanksgiving!

    Comment by ruabelk — November 24, 2010 @ 12:13 | Reply

    • Thank you. same to you.
      how many grandchildren by now?

      Comment by yael — November 24, 2010 @ 23:47 | Reply

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